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I guess I was the cookie cutter straight, white, successful male.
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Probably people would look at me and think, "Well, I'm probably like them and therefore a little bit homophobic as well."
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And then I made the really difficult decision to come out.
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You know, I met a man that I fell in love with when I was nearly 40 and then I realised I was gay.
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[Why are people homophobic?]
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[Richard Beaven is a financial services director and LGBT activist.]
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[He believes it's important to understand homophobia, in order to eradicate it.]
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Mr. Mawby, do you think homosexuals should be sent to prison?
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-Yes. Of course if they are ... -Surrounded by other men or ...
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Unbelievable.
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[Homosexuality was illegal in England and Wales until 1967, but homophobia still remains today.]
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When I think about why people are homophobic, I think about a workshop that I ran in the city a couple of years ago.
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It was really good, apart from this one guy who literally said nothing and he had his arms folded, clearly really uncomfortable about being there.
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So I stopped the conversation and I looked at him and I said, "I notice you are not engaging with this."
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"You are not part of the conversation."
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And I said, "I suspect there are three things that I find a lot of people struggle to engage in this conversation with, and the first one is gay sex."
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Lots of straight men find it very, very uncomfortable to think about how men have sex with men.
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But we have to park that.
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We're not having a conversation around sex, we're having a conversation about inclusivity and making people feel welcome.
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And then I said, "The second thing I think lots of people like you think is that, you know, that 'all men who are gay fancy all men.'"
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And I said, "You're just not my type."
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And he started to smile and I said, "But there's the third thing."
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And I said, "This is often a problem, is that, 'If I engage in this conversation then people might think I'm gay'."
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[On top of this, Richard believes the HIV crisis still casts a shadow.]
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There is now a deadly virus which anyone can catch from sex with an infected person.
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So protect yourself.
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It's safer if you use a condom.
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So I think that crisis had a huge impact on or reinforced the fact that gay people are different.
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And there was a lot of terrible language around "gay people spread diseases," and it was just ghastly at the time.
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And I think that's influenced a whole generation in terms of the way they think about homosexuality.
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-You know, Russia has got anti-gay legislation, Chechnya you find pogroms against gay people. - Oh my god, yeah.
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If you could speak to Vladimir Putin right now, what would you say to him?
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I would love to sit down and talk to him face-to-face because only face-to-face with people do you get any progress.
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So the thing I particularly like about what Elton says there is about sitting down with people and talking.
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I do think we have repressed a lot, so people have just put it in a box saying,
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"Oh god I'm not allowed to say whatever it may be …"
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But if you allow people time to say it, and to say words that they might be a bit clumsy about ...
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It's fine, because you can help people learn.
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It's fantastic when I talk to young people who are declaring whatever spectrum of sexuality they are on without thinking about it, I think of my own children.
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They don't think about this in the way that those of us born in the 60s and 70s and the influences that we had do.
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So, is this fixable? It's changeable.
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It really is, and a few simple things can help.
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If you've never met a gay person, go and talk to one.
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You know what? They're quite nice to talk to.
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And listen and we use something called reverse mentoring.
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You know, if you're senior, go and find someone that's not like you that is in the organisation and listen.
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Not for you to tell them, for you to listen to their story and who they are, because it might feel a bit uncomfortable.
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But trust me, that works brilliantly well and I have seen people completely transformed.
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Their mind is opened.
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They realize, "They're just like everyone else."
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Being a straight ally, I know that word gets used a lot now, really matters.
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And say that you are a supporter of the LGBT+ community.
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Just do it and you know what, people won't think worse for you they will think a lot more of you.
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Because it's even more powerful if a straight ally talks about being inclusive and being welcoming of all forms of diversity.
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That works really well.