字幕表 動画を再生する 英語字幕をプリント What now what? Next to a question? We all ask ourselves every single day whether you're 10 years old, playing football or your 30 years will be a new parent. You want to know what I do? And after that saying go do a value. It it Is it a right thing? Is it the wrong thing? But I might talk today. I want to share with you some concepts you can use. Didn't that in the steppe on Evaluate as you go as well. All right. These are concepts for you. The tick stimulate thought. Take it. See yourself in it. Wherever you are in life, it is for you that I'm just sharing with you as the USA's Well, So first I'll tell you who I am. My name is moral Clark, and I'm from Barbados. I know, I know. It's beautiful. 21 mile long island. I think there was born there about seven years old. I saw a world map. I remember looking at the map. I wondering Where's my island? I was a tiny dot on the map and I was like, Wow, I love it here. But that's when people outside I want to go meet and see and spend time with. So what? Seven years old, I made a choice to travel the world. I don't know what would look like home that night. I told my parents are gonna go to Australia. I see alligators. You know you're 70. Have your dream right now. But it was 14 years old. I started working on that dream. One of my schoolmates became very famous. I'm into comp Amir school reverie polled bunch. She became very famous. And I was like, What? She could do it. I can do it. You know, she was normal, just like me. And if she can succeed, I won't do as well. So I started watching and seeing what she did. So more of my classes. If you can't shameless whether it's not athletics or in cricket, I'm part of my life. Story was to find out what they did evaluate it. And every time I met myself So then I started taking some risk. After she got famous, I said, I need a sport to play. So I started playing rugby. Never heard of it before. I've been telling you, Tube. I found it. I was five months. I was on the national team for Barbados Playing rugby trouble doing that? 21 years old. I want to go and be a camp counselor in America. I remember applying and say, Hey, I want to go to America. Account costless, you say? Well, what did you want to go to? Well, I am goingto Iowa. If you heard about Iowa, there is a whole lot in Iowa. I phoned a song. A song? Actually. The song literally. It was two minutes long on the word corn was probably 100 times in the song was corn, corn, corn, corn Look, A tree I remember, you know, going there. And I showed up. It was June 3rd of all night. I went there on my way. The fantastic place that my first did. There's no You know what? I'm gonna move here someday. I'm gonna live here. I don't know what it would look like. I was gonna make it happen. I mean, to see all I told him. Hey, sir, I wanna work for you. He said what? You do it And I want to move here and work for you. Too busy to do. Finish your degree. When you finish it, call me. I'm gonna talk about it. I said, That's not going to work. I bought the Barbados. I finished my degree. I sold all I hide all my money out. I bought up San Ticket. I'm gonna play in the next week. Fluto, Iowa. Walked into his office as a Frank. You told me to call you and I got my degree. I want to work for you. Police. There's my degree, he said. Are you serious? Well, that Yep, but I don't have any jobs or money, so that's what I'll do. I'll volunteer for a month and end up month. I'll be pretty good on you, finding money to hire me. A year later, I moved there. I created a program called Way Achievers. The program Iran was supposed to help young people and in a criminal system make different choices. And all I will show you now are things that I use with my young people in the program. You know, they come to me, stole a car, commit some crime holder. I take them for where they are, So where they think they want to be ever. I think they should be. So what now? And what next? What do we do? Know how to evaluate that? So I want to share with you in the next 12 minutes. Would have learned through working with young people in America and traveling the road as well, interviewing people all over the world. The first thing is, in life we have a passion. We have passion a lot. What if passion Passion is a simple feeling. It's a strong feeling. You have us why you want to do something. That is it is a feeling you have a very deep emotion off. Why you want to do something. If you like football, it's stopped. If you have your kids there, you're passionate. Why you care is a fire in your heart and it's always on. No way that passion is met with intentional action. It becomes your purpose now. What is their purpose? I'm gonna talk. We're going towards your purpose. Purpose isn't a place. It is Noah. Destination purposes, a process. You know, every aim to get the purpose. And it's over there. When you get over there, I can guarantee you there'll be one more over there again. And then you'll get there. What happens is over there. You get your degree, you get your job, you get your family. There's always more over. There's don't focus on that. Purpose is a process on contentment is now. So right now, your students, your purpose is what you want, Toby. So again, let's go through it. Passion is why strong emotion. Intention is what you do. The simplest, smallest step. But it's a phone call. You make reading a book are going to your job on the purpose is what you want to be at the end of this very, very simple. Now I feel the intention. Intention glues it all together. You have that feeling, But it is not your purpose yet. The step you take gets you there. No, with us that would it would teach you is that I want to take action. It may be the wrong action, but the wrong action taken on purpose intentionally not taking it, Tofail. But doing something that may not work out that is better than in action or reaction in action. Did you do nothing? You did nothing for you Learned nothing reaction. You just did it as a response But when you take intentional action, you know the parameters that went into that action or you can evaluate it part of it, that passionate. We really care about that. You know why on dhe it doesn't work out. Is this appointment on it hurts and that leads to pain on this pain is very important in the whole process. Because I want to show you how to use this. Be intentionally of the tetanus peon you have. It didn't work out. You had all the passion in the world that if all your heart and it didn't work holy we did this pain on process it to reinvest it. When the pin happens, remind yourself why you started. Always go about not feeling you had in the beginning before the action. When did you start? Why are you doing this? So now let's go through how to use this pain now intentionally, for the first thing is, we do something. You take a strong, intentional step. You understand why we're doing it? We implemented and afterwards we get feedback. No, that's re Brandt failure. The word feel your hits very hard, right? Lest it work, feel they're out of it cause failure. It followed by guilt. When you were seven years old, you made a mistake and you got yelled at You felt bad about it. You felt shame and guilt. So we we kind of stopped taking you actions. I want to ask you right now the goal to your seven year old self. I just tell that young person it's not their fault. You made a mistake. It's whole care. We learned that we improve. When you do something, you get feedback, positive or negative feedback. It is simply feedback. No emotion. Don't worry about it. Okay? From this point, what happens next? We need to think I'm processed. That feedback we got, you took the action. It worked. What? We do it again. He took it. It didn't work. Why didn't it work? Because you knew the parameters that would enter that action. So you know how to evaluate it. And the secret is is to go do it again. Because sometimes we do it. We succeed on we stop. But the process is to continue improving when we do it and it doesn't work. What do we do? We block that feeling. It feels terrible. is painful I'm thinking about. It doesn't feel very good, So why would you do it? Anyone anyone was to ask for anything became really good at doing things badly over a long period of time. Any musician and a sports person and the academic, we just had an environment that allowed them to do things badly or a long period of time. I want Lois to do that is vulnerability. Barnabas is doing something, knowing it may not work out. We have great teachers on great coaches that allow us to be vulnerable. We do it intentionally. You're vulnerable. Annoying may not work. Doc sent a negative feedback again vulnerability to think about what an equation that I do incorrectly. There are always external factors, yes, but focus on what you can change. It may be changing the environment now. One more thing in this process in life were saying, We fall down, we go again. But that's so care, but an apartment, part of the process. When you do it, you get your feedback. You think about that vulnerable openly. Part of it is to rest. We aren't talked to rest my rich members trying for things we want, but sometimes you need to sit down. After it happens, you get the feedback. Sit down for a while. Just brief. Process it When you're ready, you go again. So it is. Your timeline is your life. So if you want to be a great student, you do. Your studies doesn't work out. You improve his parenting, every being a boss. Remember those who were there If you're allowed you to be vulnerable, those great teachers alleged digital processor easily and then also might as well show you their vulnerability as well. Those in a while that we connect with that we remember as we get older, no part of it in my life. After into America, things were going really great. It was to help many kids. I'm home one time I my nephew, said, Roll, you know, you come home for a week. A year on is great, but it breaks my heart sometimes I said, Wow, this is this heavy stuff. So my purpose changed because purposes yours. You have the freedom to change it whenever you want. So let's talk about recent allocation.